My goal on this site is to dispute EVERY argument against modesty and to prove that modesty isn't meant to turn you into the Abnegation faction.
Here are some common statements that really irate me:
Modesty is for women: Maybe some people make it seem that way, but modesty should be for the men too. See my article Men and Modesty. I also just stumbled across this great article called The Other Side of Modesty. Women can indeed lust too, the site of a shirtless guy with nice abs surely can make us as hot as a man looking at a girl in a bikini. However, it is proven that the way a man dresses does not affect in the same way clothing affects men.
Men should just control it: Yes, no matter how a women dresses it is no excuse for rape, harassment, catcalling, etc, etc. HOWEVER, just because a man isn't acting upon lustful thoughts from seeing your entire beautiful and long legs, doesn't mean he is not thinking the. It is scientifically proven that men see women as OBJECTS when she scantily dressed. It is NOT their "fault", it is the way their brains were created. Frankly, it is selfish to think men should just "shove it" and that is doesn't matter how you dress. As long as it pleases you, right?
It's kind of like this, I am on a gluten-free diet, so I can't eat all the good stuff like pizza, bread or pancakes without BAD consequences. It would be very mean if my sister sat there eating a nice huge piece of pizza while I was trying to have a conversation with her. Or if my mom starts baking some homemade biscuits, I have to leave the room or my throat swells, just from the smell of it. Yes, my sister can eat pizza, yes, my mom can make biscuits, but not if I am in the same room. Go ahead, feel sexy, wear miniskirt and bellyshirts, in your bedroom and lounging around your house, but you don't need to parade around like that.
Modesty leads to shaming of the female body: Modesty is about putting away our selfish pride and vanity so that we can be better people and help others, or serve God if you're a Christian, like me. It also helps us develop SELF-RESPECT.
I love what Downtown Demure says "The purpose of modesty isn’t to enforce patriarchal oppression or hide the shameful female body. The purpose of modesty, when stripped of all the nonsense, is to express love — love for God, love for ourselves, and love for our brothers and sisters."
Come again soon to keep a look-out for part 2.